Couples Therapy for Biracial and Queer Relationships | Change Unhealthy Patterns, Set Boundaries, and Enhance Intimacy

THERAPY FOR RELATIONSHIPS/COUPLES

RELATIONSHIP THERAPY / THERAPY FOR COUPLES

Does this sound like you?

The stress and overwhelm of two demanding jobs, parenting, and keeping up with household chores and errands leaves you exhausted and with little time left over to engage with your partner in the way you want.
You and your partner feel stuck having the same argument over and over again and exasperated you can’t resolve it.
The intensity of your recent arguments scare the heck out of you. You don't understand how small disagreements spiral out of control and derail your best intentions.
After being together for years and raising children together, you have drifted apart and you feel like two roommates sharing a house. You love your partner and want to learn how to connect and be intimate again.
Navigating each other’s cultural and family norms and obligations is putting stress on your relationship.

If this resonates with you, I can help you.

I work with same-sex and queer couples, opposite-sex couples, and biracial and interracial couples.
In addition, I work with dyads or pairs of adult siblings or parent and adult child.

Being in relationship is one of the most profound and intimate experiences of one's life.

Relationships can also be heartbreaking.

Arguments, miscommunication, unhealthy expression of anger, unconscious patterns of relating, and past relationship experiences and injuries make you turn away from each other leaving you both feeling sad, alone and stuck.

I help you identify and understand how each person's core vulnerabilities interact to thwart empathy, stoke destructive communication and conflict, and foment distrust, alienation, anger, shame, and a loss of intimacy.

I help people in relationship recognize unhealthy patterns that may be getting repeated in the relationship. Together we identify the optimal level of togetherness and separateness and how to set boundaries. You learn how to communicate needs and feelings and listen with curiosity and empathy, so both of you can engage safely and feel heard. With curiosity and empathy, you are able to turn towards one another to foster intimacy, connection, and resilience. So your relationship can bloom.

People in biracial, queer and other types of unconventional relationships face even greater challenges as societal and cultural norms and family expectations put pressure on the partnership. The lack of understanding and support from family, friends, and community can lead the couple to feel isolated. Exploring and understanding cultural and family expectations and obligations, and learning how to integrate and honor each other’s identities and values helps you find ways to support each other and work together.

Some examples of relationship issues I most often help with are:

Building Healthy Interdependence
Caring for Elderly Parents
Communication and Assertiveness
Creating Work-Life Balance
Cultivating Empathy
Fostering Intimacy
Grief and Loss

Honoring Partner's Cultural and Racial Identities
Identifying and Understanding the Impact of Power Dynamics
Life Transitions (e.g. becoming parents, empty nest)
Navigating Family Relationships and Expectations
Parenting Stress
Repairing and Rebuilding Trust
Understanding Sibling Rivalry

Let's talk about how I can help you

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