COUPLES / RELATIONSHIPS
I work with same-sex and queer couples, opposite-sex couples, and
biracial and interracial couples. I also work with adult sibling pairs
and parent and adult child pairs.
Romantic and familial relationships can be the most profound and intimate experiences in one's life. Relationships can also be heartbreaking. Arguments, miscommunication, unhealthy expression of anger, unconscious patterns of relating, and past hurts get in the way of love, leaving both of you feeling sad, alone, and stuck.
Together, we work to identify and understand how each person's core vulnerabilities interact to thwart empathy, stoke destructive communication and conflict, and foment distrust, alienation, anger, shame, and a loss of intimacy.
I help people in relationship recognize unhealthy patterns that may be getting repeated in the relationship. Together we identify the optimal level of togetherness and separateness and how to set boundaries. We work on communicating needs and feelings and listening with curiosity and empathy so both can engage safely and feel heard. With curiosity and empathy, you are able to turn towards, rather than away, from one another to foster intimacy, connection, and resilience. So your relationship can bloom.
People in biracial, queer and other types of unconventional relationships face even greater challenges as societal and cultural norms and family expectations put pressure on the partnership. The lack of understanding and support from family, friends, and community can lead the couple to feel isolated. Exploring and understanding cultural and family expectations and obligations, and learning how to integrate and honor each other’s identities and values helps you find ways to support each other and work together.
I help couples and dyads with the following types of issues:
Building Healthy Interdependence
Communication and Assertiveness
Creating Work-Life Balance
Grief and Loss
Honoring Partner's Cultural and Racial Identities
Identifying and Understanding the Impact of Power Dynamics
Life Transitions (e.g. becoming parents, empty nest)
Managing Care for Elderly Parents
Navigating Family Relationships and Expectations
Repairing and Rebuilding Trust
Understanding Sibling Rivalry